Frame control. What is it? And how do you cultivate it ?
http://www.returnofkings.com/29943/the-essence-of-frame-control
Frame Control, to me, means this: Sticking to your course of action and not being swayed or aggravated by anything.
1. The course of action would be your intent. You have to be very clear why are you doing what you’re doing. For example, why are you at Zouk? To stand at the corner of the dance floor holding your glass of vodka lime and methodically scanning at all the girls while continually making excuses for yourself for why you are not having fun (getting wasted with your friends is not counted unless that’s what you’re wasting your money at a club for…) or talking to chicks? I’m guessing you’re out there to get some dip your wick in honey.
Gonna honey all over that face
So what does that mean. You have to take action and act on your intent by approaching the women you see. You have to be clear in how you portray your intent. The women you interact with have to feel on a subconscious level what the interaction is all about. Your verbal and non verbal cues (way more important) have to display that intent. Jeff from RSD calls it “Man to Woman” communication.
Watch the entire video. It’s fucking gold. At 4:30, he lays it out for everyone in terms of body language in the simplest way via a demonstration with a chick. Putting your body squarely in front of her and slowly physically escalating indicates dominance and signals the intent that you are sexually interested in her and would like to stick your dick in her vagina. There is no way the woman will misinterpret what you’re there for. At this point, she’ll be up for it or reject you. which is good because you can escalate or move on to the next girl. Most guys are not able to do this because they would rather stick their face in hot coal than face rejection from some girl.
2.The aggravation would then naturally come from girls that you want to pick up. These instinctive attempts by your female prey at gaining control usually comes in the form of words usually shit tests from girls like ‘what makes you think you’re so special?’, ‘buy me a drink’ or ‘you look like a player‘. Obviously, this reaction in females has it’s roots in evolutionary biology where the women only want to be interacting with the most confident of men and shit tests do a great job of sifting them out.
It is a good thing if it happens. It mean’s you’re provoking them (different from the insipid attempts from chodes that she is used to) and she reacts by trying to institute her frame to control the situation. She’s giving you an opportunity to impress her. My favourite redpill blogger, Heartiste, has an excellent list detailing all the shit tests (and good comebacks) you can expect to face in your daily routine.
Can’t escape them
Fellow redpillers, how you react to her reaction determines the outcome of the night. Whether you end up planting your seed in her melon patch or whacking off into your spongebob square-pants towel at home depends on this.
A conversation that ensures a va jay jay clams up would go something like this:
Beta dude: Hi, you appear quite fashionable this evening.
Princess: Er…why are you talking to me? (She tries to set the frame that you’re this creepy guy trying to pick her up)
Beta dude: Well, I saw you across the room and you er look really pretty. I love your hair and the way you smile. So I er thought that I should er come over to say hello.
Princess: (After being complimented on her looks for the 28th time for the day) Gee thanks…anyway I need to go to the loo. I’ll see you in abit.
One that induces sparkles in her eyes and tingles in her in her nether region goes like this:
Alpha dude: Hi, you appear quite fashionable this evening.
Princess: Er…why are you talking to me?
Alpha dude: Well, your mum told me to. (You re-framing the interaction)
Princess: (After getting over the initial shock) What, my mum?!
Alpha dude: Yes. Anyway, you smell good. Let’s get married (slight grin as you’re saying it)…
Do note that each time you pass a shit test (your response does not have to be logical. In fact it’ll be better lol), she becomes more attracted to you. And she loves you even more…
Here’s another fantastic guide from RSD on how to respond to shit tests.
Like Julien says, embrace the shit test or let it feed into your current reality. He isn’t perturbed by the girls shit test : “You have moobs”. His nonchalant comebacks just demonstrates high value: “It helps me get in touch with my feminine side :)”. You bring the girl to your reality. She will slowly fall into frame the more you hold you it, suck and mold her frame and pass her shit tests.
The best example of frame control is this clip from the Late Night Show with Craig Ferguson.
We’re awesome.
That’s all for now. I’ll be posting on how you can cultivate and strengthen your frame control in my next post.
Cheers,
RDP
