As men, I think its fair to say most of us have been brought up to be nice guys to women. When I say nice, it means to give in and to do what the woman wants and to get her the stuff she says she wants or to even behave the way she likes for you to behave. As nice guys, we intuitively want to accommodate the wishes of the woman we love.When we get into a relationship, we’re full of feel-good hormones. We guys do whatever it takes to make our gf/wife happy. I mean what can go wrong?
When she refuses your ideas for dinner locations and instead preferring to go elsewhere, you accommodate her. When told told to correct this or that about your own behavior, you accommodate her and change yourself. When insisting that she’s right in an argument, even when she’s clearly wrong, you accommodate her. You start giving into her in anything and everything.
Yes, it was my fault that we were late for the movie. I should have anticipated your 2 hour make-up requirement!
You might do all these in the hopes of appeasing your woman. I mean you’re doing exactly what she says and giving in everytime! It should make her happy. It would. In the very short run that is. After a while, when she subconsciously starts noticing your capitulation to her wants and likes, she makes even more ludicrous demands of you. She slowly starts by mocking you by pointing out your mistakes (to which you reluctantly agree to) and freely dispensing advise on how you can improve yourself as a man. She starts getting annoyed with you for no reason and starts picking fights over nothing. It is at this point she would break-up with you citing various reasons that include “feeling that we’ve drifted apart” or “can’t take the arguing anymore”. At this point, the guy is devastated and confused as heck about what the past few months were about. A real life example.
What I’ve learned is to never ever supplicate to your girlfriend. Basically doing the things that you think makes her happy. Or acting on what women tell you that makes them happy or they find attractive in a guy. One point all readers must take note is to never EVER accept advice from women on “how to be a man”. Don’t internalize articles written by women on masculinity. Don’t believe it when females talk about the traits they admire most in guys. They say they want nice guys, sensitive, treat them well, love them with all their heart and doesn’t even look at other girls and so on and so forth. Do they really mean it? No and being more attuned at communicating I suspect even they don’t believe the rubbish their saying when it clearly contradicts with their own behavior.
Instead, seek knowledge from other men or books written by men. Sites like returnofkings and heartiste are good sources of red pill advice for men. I regularly visit them for my regular dosage of awesomeness. Look out for yourself first. When she misbehaves, tell her. Always maintain your calm if she starts arguing about anything. Stay rock steady. Noticing how you don’t put up with her bullshit, her juices will eventually flow my fellow redpill friends.
